Seeing the Opportunities that Lie in Tragedy

Words & Images by Nicole Hoglund

Life isn’t always rainbows, sunshine and puppies, right? There are always ebbs and flows to each of our lives because change is constant. Change is what keeps us moving forward and setting new goals. If we were stagnant, then we wouldn’t want to push forward.

When the low points in our lives are more prominent than the high’s, it can take a toll on our mindset, our physical bodies and honestly we just might feel like crap. Those low points can define us, if we let them, but whenever we are in a rut, if we know, truly know that there will be a light at the end of the tunnel, how can that change how we see our future?

I’m a small business coach, so an assumption that can be made is that my mindset is always in the positive... while I strive for it to be there, I am also only human and there isn’t a plastic bubble around me that shields me from real life. Tragedies happen everyday and I am not one to shy away from them. So let’s get real, so I can hopefully show you how you can see opportunities to get you from your low points back to your high points in the right time you need for it to to happen, ok? I promise you, it’s possible. 

My husband and I have been trying to start our family for about a year now. In that year I have had two miscarriages. Miscarriages are heart breaking and can be utterly life shattering. Mine have been followed by a lot of emotions, crying and couch sitting which is completely normal and you need to give yourself permission to sit in it. When you experience tragedy in your life you can’t just put it out of your mind and not deal with it, you have to face it eventually and facing it sooner will allow you to heal. When you sit in the uncomfortable there are so many things that can happen. For me, while my second miscarriage had me dealing with a lot of self-anger and getting real about my health, I wanted to share with you about what happened with my first. 

When my first miscarriage happened, looking back, I’d be lying if I said it wasn’t difficult. Those first 10 weeks were filled with stress, anxiety, fear, morning sickness and whole other load of things that just made me feel worse than I already was feeling, which all played a factor. The biggest thing though, besides the sadness when it happened was, I was able to see my life go in two different directions and I was able to see that the opportunity to own my business was what I needed to do in my life in that moment. I choose to fight for the good that could come out of it, while the reality is that I was not going to have a child yet, I could make my life a lot better and have less stress now so when we are blessed with children I am in a place that I love, than where I was at before. It’s because I choose to see the opportunity in that moment that I was able to get out from that low and into a high place in the right amount of time for me. 

Everyone is different, but how much better would you feel if you know that no matter what you’re dealing with, there was something that you wanted to strive for, to make better in your life. Like I said before, change is constant, what you do in this moment, will not be the same as you do in the next, but as long as you know you truly have the power to see opportunities, even in horrible situations, then your life will be better because of it. 

This is where the power of choice comes in. We all have it and we can choose to use it or not, when you consciously choose to see the opportunities, regardless of the situation, what/who would be able to stop you from achieving that? The answer is no one but yourself! See the opportunities my friends, they are there, even in the darkest of situations.

Nicole is a Small Business & Confidence Coach for entrepreneurs who are ready to create their own version of success and one half of the hosting duo of the BeYOUtifully Bold in Business Podcast. Basically she really wants you to see the power you bring to the table in your business and truly be confident in the goals you have. If she isn't working you can find her hanging out with her husband and pup, having a great cup of coffee or glass of wine with friends, or on the couch watching really bad reality TV!  Read more on her blog, Honestly Able.

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