Becoming Unshakeable


Words by Darling Allegri


"A seemingly magical process of transformation, creation or combination." 

Self Alchemy is how I like to describe the process my life went through. It began when I was sitting in a jail cell for only 12 hours, just enough time for me to gear up for it. I was taken in for driving a car with an expired registration and a suspended license but it was more than that to me. It was a mark of rock bottom after entering a downward spiral. I was a single mother at the time who lost her mind over lost love and became a depressed, self harming machine. I had lost my job, failed everyone in my business, lost my car and eventually, my ex-husband and I made the decision to make me the part time parent until I was “stable”.

I can’t tell you that I made a ton of decisions to turn my life around. I can only tell you that, when I was in the darkest of places, I didn’t have decisive options; I only had myself. So I worked with that. I faced myself, my past, my present and I dug into it until every single layer was peeled off. I dug into it until I found the version of who I was without my pain, trauma and failure. I found that person and I nurtured her. I got to know her and I learned how to help her grow. I began to align every single step to what she approved. I did that on my own… and I made a vow to make sure the women I come in contact with don’t have to do it on their own.

I had to claw my way out of the darkest time in my life and when I came out on the other side, everything had changed. I realized that the power isn’t in the business, the branding, or the appearances. Instead, the power is in our stories. The transformation of the things that once oppressed us turned into that which empowers us. This is what allows us to impact the world.  My children, whom I have normal custody of now, believe I’m the best mother ever. Ironically enough, I am now the bonus mom of two more kiddos and I am in the best marriage I’ve ever had. I love and honor myself, and I get to help other women reach their own point of Self Alchemy each and every day of my life. I am strong and unashamed.

The transformation of the things that once oppressed us turned into that which empowers us. This is what allows us to impact the world.

As a Transformation Mentor, Certified Theta-Healer, and Intuitive Guide, I help women become unshakable in life and impactful in business through interdisciplinary healing methods that are both practical and magical. My mission is to help game-changers shape-shift from what the world has tried to make of them, into who they truly are so that they can carry out their passion, purpose and mission while living fulfilling lives. Everyone KNOWS that stories can change the lives of those who read them… getting to the point where you can own the story of your life and embody the high perspective view of your story is what I’m here for. 

As an intuitive and an empath the conversational flow in my process naturally brings to light what is begging to be seen, sometimes completely unbeknownst to the person. It happens organically and I treat it with respect and honor as I make space for it. Exploring these discoveries with my clients and guiding them through SEEING it is one of my favorite things in the world because they are often discovering the truth behind something they’ve just been used to speaking of in passing or not at all. It’s often a more beautiful truth than they have believed it to be prior to working together with me.

My process always begins with addressing what’s currently pressing on them. What’s currently pressing them is always pointing them to the starting line. We work our way back to what I call the “Constellation of their Life” and trace the patterns. We work through each of these carefully, processing, discovering, healing and lifting the veils of perception. Everyone is unique or every journey looks completely different… but they always end up magical!

I am here to tell you that no matter where you have been, and no matter where you are now, you too can achieve self alchemy. You haven’t gone through all of it just to go through all of it; you are destined to be on the other side of this to tell your story for those trailing along the same path. Step into your power, align with your divine identity, own your story, and impact others… I’m in your corner!



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