Posts in Self Love
The Creative Practice of Painting in Motherhood

I have always been a creative person, but I did not start painting until I was firmly in the trenches of motherhood, growing a family, and finding direction in my career. The pressures of life and work and my new found responsibilities of raising a child seemed to caution me against taking on something new—something that I was not one bit good at, something that was for myself only, and something that had no apparent payoff.

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Stop Living in Fear

I think my writer’s block is fear. It’s becoming one of those days where thinking about what to write, and rereading things I’ve already written, fills my head with a sort of melancholy that makes me feel so tired of even trying. For some reason my own writing makes me feel like going to bed, hiding my head under the blanket, and turning off my brain. Forcefully numbing myself with social media or Netflix. I don’t know why this is.

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Doing Whatever It Takes

Typing “Self-Care for Moms” into the Pinterest search bar will fill your screen with women who are lying in bed, lounging in the bathtub, and staring off aimlessly into space. Typing #selfcare into the search bar on Instagram brings back 14 million posts (literally) and will fill your screen with the same images, plus quite a few of women drinking wine.

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My Relationship With Money

When I needed more money, which was often, I could call Grandma. Grandma’s money was given in exchange for my attention. I loved Grandma, but she was difficult. It took some work to get money from Grandma and it took a big swallow of guilt to take it. Grandma, money, attention, guilt, became a revolving door of shame and justification. My self worth was tied to this notion of divvying up a pile of money (good feelings) until it was gone (bad feelings) and then starting all over again.

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My Not-So-Hygge Home

I adore the idea of a hygge house. You know the kind; they’re the ones you can find on social media filed under inspiring, peaceful sounding words like #darlinghome, #myhousebeautiful and #simplehousestyle. Scrolling through the feeds is like entering a world of pristine calm. All is white, organic, natural, and clean. Spotlessly clean. I look through the galleries of domestic perfection, and feel gratitude, joy, and Zen criss-cross my computer screen. I want some of that, I think.

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3 Ways to Support Someone Who is Hurting

I promised myself that when I got to the other side of grief I’d come alongside those just beginning with real support. I would offer helpful advice cultivated from my experience of healing, despite the lack of support I’d received from a confused and unprepared culture. Even more importantly, I didn’t want anyone to feel as lonely as I felt if I could help it.

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7 Writing Prompts About Courage to Help You Uncover Your Story

We all have a story inside of us about the courage we've shown in the face of fear, adversity, health issues, relationship/family/career worries, and other life struggles. Since we're obviously huge fans of women sharing their stories through writing, we'd love to share these 7 writing prompts with you to explore how courage has impacted your life.

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What Self Care Means to Me

What I'm realizing as the weeks slip by and I step more fully into this new version of me, is that the indulgent bubble bath at the end of the night is only enjoyable if I stop calling myself 'lazy' while I take it. The home cooked meal only counts as self care if I don't stand in the mirror obsessing about my stomach afterwards. Self care for me is looking a lot like the way I give myself permission to do and enjoy the things we want.

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9 Beautiful Journals to Share Your Story

Here at Holl & Lane, we truly believe in the power of story. Whether you share your story with the world, or you keep it private, writing your own story, the pieces of it, the moments, is such a valuable tool. Something else we believe in? Writing your story in a beautiful keepsake - something you’ll want to pull out time and time again. We’ve rounded up 9 beautiful journals just begging to hold your life within their pages.

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How I Became a Runner While Focusing on Self-Care

I started small. I focused on what I was eating. I’ve never had a problem with adjusting my diet, so I figured the easiest step was to focus there first. I re-downloaded the My Fitness Pal app and started paying attention to my portion sizes. I started watching how many calories were in the foods I had been eating. I didn’t starve myself, I still enjoyed food, I just did it in a healthier way. This was my sole focus for a month. And I began to see very slight changes in my body and how I was feeling.

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