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Lessons Learned From a New Bra
I am baffled. Do people buy bras more frequently than two years? I peek inside my shirt at my saggy, sweat stained nursing bra I wear despite no longer nursing. I am certain all of my bras are as old as the breasts they hold.
You've Always Been Enough
For years I have been the outcast, but not the outcast who just dressed differently or who listened to peculiar music, although I was guilty of that too. I was the little girl who was not “black enough”.
The Process of Self-Discovery
Motherhood was my main role, and the responsibility of it was deeply ingrained in my identity. I suddenly discovered, however, that it was not my only role. Also, I wanted more, and there were dreams outside of my children that I needed to invest in.
Trying Self-Acceptance On For Size
My daughter, Zoey, sits on a bench beside me, moving her legs back and forth to the beat of the song she quietly sings. In the mirror before me, I see her kicking feet, and I am grateful her movement has momentarily pulled my attention toward her reflection and away from my own. But soon my gaze shifts back to my body to the task at hand, and I’m wishing I was somewhere else.